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07-04-2020, 07:34 AM
I was laid off in March, due to Covid-19. While collecting unemployment and searching for work, I took advantage of my down time, and spent a great portion of my time as Jodie. Soon, it became second nature, and I was her 24/7.
Without hormone therapy or surgeries, but living my life as I envision myself. It ain't easy, girls! LOL But to me, worth the effort to be happy in my skin.
I knew I couldn't go back to my old job, they wouldn't accept me, and I couldn't go back into hiding. Two weeks ago, I put in for a part-time job with a supermarket chain, as Jodie, tweaked my resume, filled out the on-line application, and crossed my fingers for luck.
I was called the next day to schedule an interview at the store. I explained that I was transgender, and the Manager said that was fine, the company supports diversity. With Mothra sized butterflies in my tummy, I got up, prepared and dressed. A smart skirt suit in black, a simple white blouse, low heeled shoes, and a few tasteful jewelry pieces. I couldn't find the wig I wanted to wear, and had to go with my trademark red bob, as in my profile pic.
I went in, ask for the Manager, and spent almost an hour interviewing with him, talking about my past careers, who I was, and where I wanted to go. He hired me, and I start on Monday, the 6th of July!
It was only when I left the store, that I realized there is NO turning back from here! I can't show up as Jodie one day, and Joe the next. There has to be consistency. It's going to mean waking up earlier, to get ready, and all that entails. I'm nervous, but also excited, and happy!
HAPPY 4TH to all!
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What a wonderful Update! So so happy for, I’m living as Sarah for the weekend and dreading Monday coming when I have to become Scott.
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Jodie...so happy for you and so jelly at the same time. Mega congratulations to you. I hope you give us an update on your first day's experience as Jodie at the supermarket. Way to go girl.
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(07-05-2020, 01:55 PM)Anne Wrote: Jodie...so happy for you and so jelly at the same time. Mega congratulations to you. I hope you give us an update on your first day's experience as Jodie at the supermarket. Way to go girl.
Don't be jelly, hun! You can get there too. For me, it was a golden opportunity: starting as 'her' is much easier than switching from 'him' to her', for the corporate minded..... Starting fresh from step one is much easier than switch tracks!
Recently I applied for and secured a part-time job with a supermarket chain, as 'Jodie', All my legal paperwork has his name, but they did give me a name tag with "Jodie" on it.
I was worried when I presented as transgender for the interview, black skirt suit, white blouse, low heels, but was encouraged by the Organizations website that welcomes and encourages diversity. They offered me the job, and I accepted.
So today was my first day ( July 5th 2020 ), on the floor, training with another employee. Outfit was girl jeans, corporate supplied top, apron and hat. and sneakers. I had no problems, at all, with customers, or staff! One supervisor, a woman, pulled me to the side and asked what my preferred name and pronouns were, because she wanted me to be comfortable! So sweet of her!
I'm happy, excited, but also nervous as all get-out, because now, I MUST present as Jodie, everyday, for consistency's sake.
That's the happy, giddy, good news.
Now for the Question.....
Every single GG employee referred to me with the correct pronouns: she, her, etc.
MOST of the male employees were mostly neutral.... in that they would say "hi", but avoided using any pronouns when referring to me. Some of them would refer to me as 'she' or 'her', but most would just use "Jodie" when addressing me.
Now, I want to stress that I felt NO anger, hostility, or negativity from any of the staff! Or even customers. A few of them gave me a second, and third glance, but no one evidenced any negative emotions or attitudes!
Now, to the Question:
Does anyone find that genetic women seem more accepting of the transgender community? Or am I just blessed to live in an area where genetic women are more accepting?
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07-06-2020, 08:54 AM
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It's my perception that it's in the cisgender female's DNA to be more accepting of Trans people than compared to cisgender males. Maybe it goes back to cavemen and the caveman's primary interest after eating/sustenance/shelter was to breed...but you can't perpetuate the species with a Transwoman. I like to think that times are changing. I truly believe that Transpeople in general are more accepted today than during the 1970's, 80's, 90's.
Jodie....I'm really happy for you that you had a very good experience on your first day. I hope all your days there are great ones.
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Jodie, That is so amazingly awesome. I am so happy for you. Congrats.
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Jodie;
Forgive me, I'm just catching up on this thread. I think that it's just wonderful and amazing for you. Now you can live as you feel comfortable being, yourself as Jodie!
As you likely know I'm in Canada, and I very much agree with Anne that there is higher acceptance of trans people than before. Not perfect by any means, but major employers here are similar to the supermarket chain you are now with. Their policy is to accept diversity.
So much of this starts at the top. If the top people in an organization say lets do it this way, then it will flow downwards, the good stuff as well as the bad. Though there are pockets of resistance, and I ran into an unexpected one last Fall, it is getting better.
The more we are out there as transgendered, or crossdressers, the more folks can see we are no different than anyone else.
XXOO
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Jodie, I am so happy for you. Keep us updated on your girl experience.
Love, Tami
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09-08-2020, 08:17 AM
(This post was last modified: 09-08-2020, 08:17 AM by JodieLynne.)
<p>September 8, 2020 </p><p><br></p><p><b>
UPDATE:
</b></p><p><br></p><p>Hi girls, thanks for all the support and well wishes. <img src="https://janetscloset.com/forums/images/smilies/heart.png" data-sceditor-emoticon=" " alt=" " title=" "> </p><p><br></p><p>It's been a little over a month, working as Jodie, and still, no negatives to report, and a few success stories. The job that I am doing is menial, basically cleaning up after everyone else, and I go home exhausted, but that is a minor inconvenience compared to the happiness I feel being able to be me.</p><p><br></p><p>Some customers give me the double take look, trying to figure me out. I smile with my eyes and wish them the appropriate greeting ( good morning, afternoon, evening ) in a pleasant tone. Almost all of them reply the same, but I think we are conditioned to do that. It's only polite. <img src="https://janetscloset.com/forums/images/smilies/smile.png" data-sceditor-emoticon="  " alt=" " title=" "></p><p><br></p><p><b>MAJOR VICTORY:</b> One of the guys in Seafood, who is a grumpy old fart to everyone, would refer to me as "Maintenance", and not use my name, and seemed to wonder why I even existed. I made it a point to ALWAYS greet him with a cheerful smile and salutation. It worked! He finally started using my name, although he thinks my name is "Josie"? LOL. Now I just need to find two pussycats and I can start a band!</p><p><br></p><p>I am thrilled to say that all of the women accept me, and I've even been dragged into a couple of gossip chats! AND, two of the women are becoming girlfriends, and want to go shopping and hang out together! </p><p><br></p><p>And, I'm not sure, but I think that one of the guys working there likes me. He always greets me with a cheerful hello, and the other day said, "Hi Jodie, how are you today sweetie?" I have to admit that it made me smile and blush a little.....</p><p><br></p><p>Across the plaza there is a pizza place, I went in one day on lunch, and the owner was working. When I walked in, there was a customer picking up and order, and the man behind the counter looked at me and said: "Hello gorgeous, what can I get you?" Girls, I cannot tell you how wonderful that made me feel! I ordered my slice, and went outside to eat. The counterman joined me and I found out he was the owner and we had a very pleasant chat. I found out a lot about him in that half hour, he is a wonderful example of a human being! People like him give me hope that humans can be a great species!</p><p><br></p><p><br></p><p>All in all, life is pretty damn good, and I am a happy, happy girl! <img src="https://janetscloset.com/forums/images/smilies/smile.png" data-sceditor-emoticon=" " alt=" " title=" "></p>
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09-08-2020, 10:36 AM
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(09-08-2020, 08:17 AM)JodieLynne Wrote: <p>September 8, 2020 </p><p><br></p><p><b>
UPDATE:
</b></p><p><br></p><p>Hi girls, thanks for all the support and well wishes. <img src="https://janetscloset.com/forums/images/smilies/heart.png" data-sceditor-emoticon="" alt="" title=""> </p><p><br></p><p>It's been a little over a month, working as Jodie, and still, no negatives to report, and a few success stories. The job that I am doing is menial, basically cleaning up after everyone else, and I go home exhausted, but that is a minor inconvenience compared to the happiness I feel being able to be me.</p><p><br></p><p>Some customers give me the double take look, trying to figure me out. I smile with my eyes and wish them the appropriate greeting ( good morning, afternoon, evening ) in a pleasant tone. Almost all of them reply the same, but I think we are conditioned to do that. It's only polite. <img src="https://janetscloset.com/forums/images/smilies/smile.png" data-sceditor-emoticon="" alt="" title=""></p><p><br></p><p><b>MAJOR VICTORY:</b> One of the guys in Seafood, who is a grumpy old fart to everyone, would refer to me as "Maintenance", and not use my name, and seemed to wonder why I even existed. I made it a point to ALWAYS greet him with a cheerful smile and salutation. It worked! He finally started using my name, although he thinks my name is "Josie"? LOL. Now I just need to find two pussycats and I can start a band!</p><p><br></p><p>I am thrilled to say that all of the women accept me, and I've even been dragged into a couple of gossip chats! AND, two of the women are becoming girlfriends, and want to go shopping and hang out together! </p><p><br></p><p>And, I'm not sure, but I think that one of the guys working there likes me. He always greets me with a cheerful hello, and the other day said, "Hi Jodie, how are you today sweetie?" I have to admit that it made me smile and blush a little.....</p><p><br></p><p>Across the plaza there is a pizza place, I went in one day on lunch, and the owner was working. When I walked in, there was a customer picking up and order, and the man behind the counter looked at me and said: "Hello gorgeous, what can I get you?" Girls, I cannot tell you how wonderful that made me feel! I ordered my slice, and went outside to eat. The counterman joined me and I found out he was the owner and we had a very pleasant chat. I found out a lot about him in that half hour, he is a wonderful example of a human being! People like him give me hope that humans can be a great species!</p><p><br></p><p><br></p><p>All in all, life is pretty damn good, and I am a happy, happy girl! <img src="https://janetscloset.com/forums/images/smilies/smile.png" data-sceditor-emoticon="" alt="" title=""></p>
Jodie, I am so happy for you. my feminity tests say I am only 50% feminine, but I already knew that without the test. I am so glad for you that you wanted to go 24/7 and you did it. YOU GO GIRL.
Bernice at home, can't venture out in fem because of circumstances.
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