04-05-2019, 07:19 AM
Hi Fran,
I don't know if this is your first post here but if it is....Welcome to Janets Closet.
Regarding your pics...WOW...you look fabulous in your outfits. You look beautiful. I wish we could see your face...I would love to see you with makeup but I understand the fear of being outed if someone recognized you. If I may briefly speak to that....IMO, it is extremely doubtful that someone you know is going to come to the forum to search for you. Unless that person also crossdresses or if you outed yourself to someone, how will anyone know that you are here? Initially I had the same fear but came to realize that no one I know is looking for me so with confidence I gladly post pictures of myself. Here's hoping some day you get the same confidence.
Regarding the girlfriend situation, my opinion is that the sooner you come out about your dressing, the better off you will be. I am also a member at www.crossdresserheaven.com and I have read many stories of people who have come out to their wife or girlfriend. In the cases where they come out to their wives, the situation is always worse because the wife always feels betrayed. In the cases I've read where they come out to girlfriends, in some cases the girlfriend accepted it (some just tolerated it but didn't want to see it...others embraced the dressing and became helpful dressing companions)It's better for both of you if you come out while you are in the boyfriend/girlfriend stage. That way, she doesn't feel betrayed and you have the opportunity to be open to her. If she accepts your dressing, you are in a great situation as you can continue your dressing (the urge NEVER goes away), and if she is really supportive, she might help you out with shopping for clothes and help you with makeup. If you stay hidden, you will always be hidden and living in fear that you will be found out some day. Then the fear causes you to purge your stuff and that gets to be expensive besides the continued frustration of being limited with the dressing. I don't know how long you have been together. A week, a month, several months....after some time, hopefully you have had enough conversations to get a feel for how she thinks. I mean, if you found out she's an evangelist, mmmmm, chances are she'll never accept dressing. But if she has socially liberal feelings, chances are she'll be more accepting. Maybe you kind of ease her into this...."I recently came across this article about men who like to dress as women. I thought they were gay, but they're not...they just like to wear womens clothes occasionally. Could you imagine anyone doing that?" Her response might surprise you. At least you might have an idea of how she might react if you come out about dressing.....help you figure out where your relationship is headed. Of course, it's up to you to ultimately decide if love is blossoming and you want your relationship to go to a whole new level. Just remember, the urge to dress NEVER goes away. I wish you the best as you figure this out.
I don't know if this is your first post here but if it is....Welcome to Janets Closet.
Regarding your pics...WOW...you look fabulous in your outfits. You look beautiful. I wish we could see your face...I would love to see you with makeup but I understand the fear of being outed if someone recognized you. If I may briefly speak to that....IMO, it is extremely doubtful that someone you know is going to come to the forum to search for you. Unless that person also crossdresses or if you outed yourself to someone, how will anyone know that you are here? Initially I had the same fear but came to realize that no one I know is looking for me so with confidence I gladly post pictures of myself. Here's hoping some day you get the same confidence.
Regarding the girlfriend situation, my opinion is that the sooner you come out about your dressing, the better off you will be. I am also a member at www.crossdresserheaven.com and I have read many stories of people who have come out to their wife or girlfriend. In the cases where they come out to their wives, the situation is always worse because the wife always feels betrayed. In the cases I've read where they come out to girlfriends, in some cases the girlfriend accepted it (some just tolerated it but didn't want to see it...others embraced the dressing and became helpful dressing companions)It's better for both of you if you come out while you are in the boyfriend/girlfriend stage. That way, she doesn't feel betrayed and you have the opportunity to be open to her. If she accepts your dressing, you are in a great situation as you can continue your dressing (the urge NEVER goes away), and if she is really supportive, she might help you out with shopping for clothes and help you with makeup. If you stay hidden, you will always be hidden and living in fear that you will be found out some day. Then the fear causes you to purge your stuff and that gets to be expensive besides the continued frustration of being limited with the dressing. I don't know how long you have been together. A week, a month, several months....after some time, hopefully you have had enough conversations to get a feel for how she thinks. I mean, if you found out she's an evangelist, mmmmm, chances are she'll never accept dressing. But if she has socially liberal feelings, chances are she'll be more accepting. Maybe you kind of ease her into this...."I recently came across this article about men who like to dress as women. I thought they were gay, but they're not...they just like to wear womens clothes occasionally. Could you imagine anyone doing that?" Her response might surprise you. At least you might have an idea of how she might react if you come out about dressing.....help you figure out where your relationship is headed. Of course, it's up to you to ultimately decide if love is blossoming and you want your relationship to go to a whole new level. Just remember, the urge to dress NEVER goes away. I wish you the best as you figure this out.
Anne