04-22-2020, 07:27 PM
A kind of funny thing I've noticed, and wondering if anyone else has....
Prior to the Covid 19 lockdown, I enjoyed many outings as Jodie, with friends. We'd go to parties, or clubs, restaurants, or shopping, often in mixed groups (GG's, girls, guys ). As a bit of background, I am active in an LGBT+ PRIDE group, and am actually a member of the Board. In my past, I was a member of Law Enforcement in NYC, and have a background in criminal law.
On a couple of occasions, I learned, firsthand, what women have gone through for ages.
It began at a diner, after a PRIDE meeting, when about 20 people gathered to socialize and enjoy each others company. There were several T-girls, a few Lesbians, gay men, and a few Bi- men and women. The venue is VERY LGBT+ friendly, and is a meeting spot for folks under the umbrella.
The conversation turned to "what to do if you are out, dressed and get pulled over/ run into a check point". When I presented my opinion on what to do, about 2 sentences in, I was steamrolled by a man who presented his opinion. I again attempted to explain my position, and was again interrupted by another man, who then 'mansplained' the law to me.
I was just about to retort, when one of the GG's tapped me on the arm and whispered "NOW you see what women have to go through" with a grin.
I was gobsmacked! Out of all the people at the table, I was THE expert on law, but was being lectured to by a man, because, obviously, I was a woman who 'just couldn't understand' the complex issues!
I'm not saying that I'm 100% passable, but a lot of people have told me that they see me as 100% female. And I have to say that as annoying as it was, I was pleased to be accepted, by the men, as a woman.
SO, has anyone else experienced the down side of presenting as a woman? Or have stories of the plus side of presenting as female?
Prior to the Covid 19 lockdown, I enjoyed many outings as Jodie, with friends. We'd go to parties, or clubs, restaurants, or shopping, often in mixed groups (GG's, girls, guys ). As a bit of background, I am active in an LGBT+ PRIDE group, and am actually a member of the Board. In my past, I was a member of Law Enforcement in NYC, and have a background in criminal law.
On a couple of occasions, I learned, firsthand, what women have gone through for ages.
It began at a diner, after a PRIDE meeting, when about 20 people gathered to socialize and enjoy each others company. There were several T-girls, a few Lesbians, gay men, and a few Bi- men and women. The venue is VERY LGBT+ friendly, and is a meeting spot for folks under the umbrella.
The conversation turned to "what to do if you are out, dressed and get pulled over/ run into a check point". When I presented my opinion on what to do, about 2 sentences in, I was steamrolled by a man who presented his opinion. I again attempted to explain my position, and was again interrupted by another man, who then 'mansplained' the law to me.
I was just about to retort, when one of the GG's tapped me on the arm and whispered "NOW you see what women have to go through" with a grin.
I was gobsmacked! Out of all the people at the table, I was THE expert on law, but was being lectured to by a man, because, obviously, I was a woman who 'just couldn't understand' the complex issues!
I'm not saying that I'm 100% passable, but a lot of people have told me that they see me as 100% female. And I have to say that as annoying as it was, I was pleased to be accepted, by the men, as a woman.
SO, has anyone else experienced the down side of presenting as a woman? Or have stories of the plus side of presenting as female?
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