01-01-2020, 08:56 AM
Hi Curious. Welcome to the Forum. We all started out where you are now. Nervously walking about the women's section of a store. Wondering if anyone is watching us and then shouting to the store, "Hey everyone. Look at the crossdresser guy here look at women's clothes for himself." I was the same way myself. Standing near the makeup aisles, waiting for an aisle to empty so I could swoop in and grab something for myself. Sooner or later (and I hope it is sooner for you), you will come to realize that noone is watching and could care less that you are looking at women's clothing or makeup. Quite the opposite, their jobs are to assist and help you so that the store can do what it needs to do...sell stuff. When you feel more confident and go shopping, when a store employee comes up to you to ask if you need help, just simply say "no thank you" and they will leave you alone. If it would help you in the beginning, go shopping at a store like Target or Walmart for clothing and makeup. They have self-check kiosks and you can check yourself out that way. If you think a particular Target or Walmart is too close to home and someone might recognize you, then go to a store that is farther away where it is very unlikely anyone from your local area would go to shop. You probably will not be comfortable with taking clothes into a dressing room to try them on (or maybe you will?) so if you take things home to try on there, just make sure you leave the tags on until you are absolutely sure you will keep it. It is easier to return stuff when the tags are still attached.
I am only 5'8" tall so it is easier for me to find clothes that fit, but if/when you feel up to it, there is a very trans-gender friendly store that caters to tall and plus-size women called Torrids. I hear CD's rave all the time about how friendly, helpful and non-judgmental the workers are. I don't go to Torrids because of my smaller stature but I'm pretty sure Torrids understands that they have a clientele in large crossdressers that help them boost sales.
If you do any online shopping and you cannot ship to your house.....if you ship by Fedex, you can have stuff shipped via Fedex to a Fedex store and they will hold it at the Fedex store up to five days for you to pick up. Or if it ships via UPS, you can either ship to a UPS store (but they typically charge you for receiving/holding your package)...or...have it shipped to a local retail store that is a designated UPS drop-off point. The local retail stores that are UPS drop-off points typically do not charge for receiving a package for you because they want you to shop at their store. You need to go to UPS.com to find your nearest UPS drop-off point.
Working with the postal service is iffy or at least it is for my local post office. So sorry for any postal workers reading this but I could train monkeys to do a better job at my local post office. You can put a hold on packages that are mailed to your local post office but whenever I hold mail, my local post office is inconsistent and sometimes holds but still sometimes delivers so I always avoid buying anything online that is ONLY SHIPPED USPS.
I hope these tips are helpful to you and you will soon be on your way to being a beautiful crossdresser.
I am only 5'8" tall so it is easier for me to find clothes that fit, but if/when you feel up to it, there is a very trans-gender friendly store that caters to tall and plus-size women called Torrids. I hear CD's rave all the time about how friendly, helpful and non-judgmental the workers are. I don't go to Torrids because of my smaller stature but I'm pretty sure Torrids understands that they have a clientele in large crossdressers that help them boost sales.
If you do any online shopping and you cannot ship to your house.....if you ship by Fedex, you can have stuff shipped via Fedex to a Fedex store and they will hold it at the Fedex store up to five days for you to pick up. Or if it ships via UPS, you can either ship to a UPS store (but they typically charge you for receiving/holding your package)...or...have it shipped to a local retail store that is a designated UPS drop-off point. The local retail stores that are UPS drop-off points typically do not charge for receiving a package for you because they want you to shop at their store. You need to go to UPS.com to find your nearest UPS drop-off point.
Working with the postal service is iffy or at least it is for my local post office. So sorry for any postal workers reading this but I could train monkeys to do a better job at my local post office. You can put a hold on packages that are mailed to your local post office but whenever I hold mail, my local post office is inconsistent and sometimes holds but still sometimes delivers so I always avoid buying anything online that is ONLY SHIPPED USPS.
I hope these tips are helpful to you and you will soon be on your way to being a beautiful crossdresser.
Anne