08-28-2019, 06:20 AM
Hi Jamie,
Thanks so much for sharing and welcome to the forum. I noticed your use of "dirty" in your discussion. I hope you don't feel that way. I go back to my childhood and my Catholic upbringing and reflect on the shame we were inspired to feel with "dirty" thoughts. It's not our fault that the cosmic baker made our dough a bit different from the others. For myself, I identify as being TG and am disgusted with the male anatomy I was born with. I dress to make me feel closer to being the woman that I believe I should have been. My thoughts don't apply to everyone here of course. Many simply enjoy the feel and look of women's clothing and kudos to them for participating. I'll finish up my diatribe just to say that you are not alone with these thoughts. Toss away those thoughts about feeling "dirty" and I hope you fully enjoy this beautiful world of women's clothing and dressing as such.
You were asking advice on a number of topics. I'll discuss a couple things so do continue to ask advice. You might find some of your answers in the various categories set up in the forum. You'll see a category on makeup, etc. But if you don't see something, then please don't be shy about asking. I would also comment that if you notice you have a question about something that belongs in a particular category, do please post your question/comment within that category so others may read the followup comments/advice. Otherwise the forum becomes a mishmash of everything.
I gather that your wife is or would be unaccepting of your dressing. So one thing you need to address is where are you gonna stash your clothing, makeup, breastforms, etc. where she cannot find it. For me, I have an unfinished basement with a work area near the furnace where I store my things in plastic containers. Not the best way to store stuff but she hates going into the basement unless she needs something and she never goes by my work area. If you try to hide your stuff in a dresser drawer or in the back of a closet, what are the chances she may come across it? So you have that to think about.
Opportunities to dress....that is a tough one and the bane of the closeted dresser. For me, I try to take advantage of those times when I know my wife will be gone for at least two hours...a shower, shopping, breakfast meetings with friends. What helps me with tracking her is that we both have an app on our iPhones called Lifetime 360. With this app, I can track her on my phone....when I see on the phone that she is making her way back home, I immediately take off my things to pack and hide them away. Please note with Lifetime 360, you need to set up a group and invite her into the group on the app so you are able to track her. Just loading the app onto your phone doesn't give you access to tracking her. I am currently getting laser and electrolysis treatments to remove hair which my wife does not know about. So when I go to those spas for my treatments, I turn off the app on my phone so she cannot see where I am at. A couple of times she has mentioned she couldn't see me on the app and I simply shrug it off by saying the app must have not been working....of course by the time I am back home, I have turned the app back on.
So I have touched on a couple things here. Welcome again.
Hugs,
Anne
Thanks so much for sharing and welcome to the forum. I noticed your use of "dirty" in your discussion. I hope you don't feel that way. I go back to my childhood and my Catholic upbringing and reflect on the shame we were inspired to feel with "dirty" thoughts. It's not our fault that the cosmic baker made our dough a bit different from the others. For myself, I identify as being TG and am disgusted with the male anatomy I was born with. I dress to make me feel closer to being the woman that I believe I should have been. My thoughts don't apply to everyone here of course. Many simply enjoy the feel and look of women's clothing and kudos to them for participating. I'll finish up my diatribe just to say that you are not alone with these thoughts. Toss away those thoughts about feeling "dirty" and I hope you fully enjoy this beautiful world of women's clothing and dressing as such.
You were asking advice on a number of topics. I'll discuss a couple things so do continue to ask advice. You might find some of your answers in the various categories set up in the forum. You'll see a category on makeup, etc. But if you don't see something, then please don't be shy about asking. I would also comment that if you notice you have a question about something that belongs in a particular category, do please post your question/comment within that category so others may read the followup comments/advice. Otherwise the forum becomes a mishmash of everything.
I gather that your wife is or would be unaccepting of your dressing. So one thing you need to address is where are you gonna stash your clothing, makeup, breastforms, etc. where she cannot find it. For me, I have an unfinished basement with a work area near the furnace where I store my things in plastic containers. Not the best way to store stuff but she hates going into the basement unless she needs something and she never goes by my work area. If you try to hide your stuff in a dresser drawer or in the back of a closet, what are the chances she may come across it? So you have that to think about.
Opportunities to dress....that is a tough one and the bane of the closeted dresser. For me, I try to take advantage of those times when I know my wife will be gone for at least two hours...a shower, shopping, breakfast meetings with friends. What helps me with tracking her is that we both have an app on our iPhones called Lifetime 360. With this app, I can track her on my phone....when I see on the phone that she is making her way back home, I immediately take off my things to pack and hide them away. Please note with Lifetime 360, you need to set up a group and invite her into the group on the app so you are able to track her. Just loading the app onto your phone doesn't give you access to tracking her. I am currently getting laser and electrolysis treatments to remove hair which my wife does not know about. So when I go to those spas for my treatments, I turn off the app on my phone so she cannot see where I am at. A couple of times she has mentioned she couldn't see me on the app and I simply shrug it off by saying the app must have not been working....of course by the time I am back home, I have turned the app back on.
So I have touched on a couple things here. Welcome again.
Hugs,
Anne
Anne