hello!

[debbie w]

hello everyone,I am looking forward to meeting everyone. It has been a  long road for me, been married for quite awhile,any dressing that I do is alone [ looking to change this] Did a little bondage with the wife a while back but I was the dominant. All good things come with a little patience.

[Dawna]

hello everyone,I am looking forward to meeting everyone. It has been a  long road for me, been married for quite awhile,any dressing that I do is alone [ looking to change this] Did a little bondage with the wife a while back but I was the dominant. All good things come with a little patience.

Hi Deb - I'm Dawna . Welcome to the forum . I too am " in the closet " for a lot of different reasons ; working with a wonderful therapist to change that . Take care and stay safe , Dawna .

[debbie w]

Thanks Dawna, I am looking forward to learning and sharing some things on these forums.

[Anne]

Hi Debbie.  Been married a long time too (38 years) and in the closet.  Wife does not know nor would she ever accept.  I stay in the closet moreso to maintain contact with grandchildren.  I'm afraid I would be cut off if the family knew I dress and the reasons why I dress.

[debbie w]

Hi Debbie.  Been married a long time too (38 years) and in the closet.  Wife does not know nor would she ever accept.  I stay in the closet moreso to maintain contact with grandchildren.  I'm afraid I would be cut off if the family knew I dress and the reasons why I dress.

I am at the point of coming out,dont care if she likes it or not. Ifs he wants to be involved it would be great.

[CanuckGirl]

Welcome Debbie! It is difficult being in the closet, and I hope it goes well for you. It is very difficult to judge how people might react, your wife might be ok with it, or not.
I take it you are at the point where you NEED to let yourself free, no matter what?
Amy

[Anne]

Hi Debbie.  Been married a long time too (38 years) and in the closet.  Wife does not know nor would she ever accept.  I stay in the closet moreso to maintain contact with grandchildren.  I'm afraid I would be cut off if the family knew I dress and the reasons why I dress.

I am at the point of coming out,dont care if she likes it or not. Ifs he wants to be involved it would be great.

Debbie, I know nothing of your situation so I cannot comment as to whether your coming out will be good or bad.  Are other relationships involved that you would miss if they choose to reject you?  Is there a financial component to this situation that could be very hurtful if your wife chooses to leave you?  I can only say to think very carefully, evaluate all of the possible outcomes and proceed cautiously.  I wish you all the best with your journey forward.

[debbie w]

"What happens in the marital bedroom stays in the marital bedroom", we were recently told that at a marriage seminar at church and I fully agree.I am not looking to dress 24/7 so I am not too worried about other relationships. I worked for over 40 years and have been married for the same amount of time,now is my time to enjoy. Thanks for the thoughts Anne.
Debbie W

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Welcome Debbie! It is difficult being in the closet, and I hope it goes well for you. It is very difficult to judge how people might react, your wife might be ok with it, or not.
I take it you are at the point where you NEED to let yourself free, no matter what?
Amy

I say yes to freedom, no to being judged,NOBODY has a right to judge. Thanks for the thoughts.
Debbie W