Something from another forum....

[JodieLynne]

Hi Anne, the site is called FetLife. Free to join, it has been called "Facebook for kinksters" It's a great place to meet like-minded people and have interesting convos.

The other site I mentioned is
Crossdressers.com which is a much, much more conservative venue that doesn't allow as much free-wheeling kinkiness as her or Fetlife, due to the fact that there are minors on the site.  There is some good information on the site though.

We just friended each other recently on Fetlife, I just didn’t realize that was where this discussion was happening.

Hi Anne!
The discussion got shut down by the mods, as the OP had asked for opinions, then got bitchy with anyone who disagreed with her.